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Are over 60 dating sites more popular in the UK or the US?

Started by: Roxanne Date: 07 Dec 2024 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Roxanne Roxanne
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Jun 2014
Posts: 1667

I've done some digging but most of what I found felt outdated. Looking for firsthand experience.

Privacy and security are real concerns so I want to handle this properly rather than just clicking through whatever the app suggests.

Happy to give more context if it helps narrow things down.

Cole Patterson Cole Patterson
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Sep 2022
Posts: 1897

Went through the same thing not long ago. Here's what actually worked. Currently Flamedate is what I'd recommend to someone dealing with this specific situation. Happy to go deeper on any of this if useful.

Wade Wade
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Jun 2016
Posts: 1622

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Patrick Patrick
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Jan 2018
Posts: 486

Been lurking here for a while — good thread to finally reply to.

Hank Hank
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Nov 2021
Posts: 2036

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Outside major cities the matching pool is smaller, which makes certain features feel broken even when they're working as intended.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

Peggy Peggy
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Apr 2020
Posts: 547

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Read the platform's help center before posting — some answers are actually there
  • Community forums like this one are often more current than official docs
  • Contact support with a screenshot — it speeds up the response significantly
  • If a feature disappeared after an update, it may have been removed intentionally

Currently using Flamedate as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Rachel Rachel
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Sep 2014
Posts: 1715

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Shane Shane
Joined:
Sep 2021
Posts: 2759

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

Privacy defaults are almost never in your favor on these platforms. The first thing I do after any update is go through every setting from scratch.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

The one that worked best for my situation was Datebie. Worth trying before committing to anything that costs money.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Bryce Bryce
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Jun 2017
Posts: 897

Let me share what I learned from going through this myself. Take what applies and leave the rest.

Latoya Latoya
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Jan 2013
Posts: 2714

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Currently using Rendate as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

That's my honest take after a fair amount of trial and error.

Kimberly Kimberly
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Jan 2023
Posts: 1242

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

For what it's worth, datelink.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Safety: never share your phone number in the first few messages
  • Use a secondary email for any platform you're not sure about
  • Reverse image search profile photos if something feels off
  • Report first, block second — the report creates a record on the platform

Happy to expand on any part of this.

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