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Are foreign dating sites a good idea for someone who wants to move abroad?

Started by: Jared Date: 28 Jan 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps dating advice community
Jared Jared
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Jun 2018
Posts: 515

Long-time reader here, first time posting on this specific topic: are foreign dating sites a good idea for someone who wants to move abroad?

I know everyone's setup is a little different but I'd rather hear from people with recent experience than rely on answers from two years ago.

What I'm specifically looking for:

  • Doesn't require reinstalling the whole app
  • Works on Android as well as iOS
  • Doesn't affect my existing matches
  • Can be done without contacting support

Appreciate any honest feedback — even brief answers are helpful.

Marcus Marcus
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Apr 2023
Posts: 581

Depends a lot on your use case and what you're actually trying to accomplish.

Owen Owen
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Jun 2022
Posts: 2119

Good question and one that comes up a lot. Here's the full picture.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

For what it's worth, flurrydate.online comes up regularly in threads about this topic. Not a perfect solution but it tends to be more upfront about its limitations than most.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Brett Brett
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Nov 2014
Posts: 2560

I've been through this rabbit hole so let me give you a thorough answer.

Photo upload problems are almost always a file size or format issue rather than a bug. JPEG under 5MB tends to work everywhere.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Privacy settings often reset after major updates — always re-check them
  • Location permissions on your phone override in-app location settings
  • Notification settings are controlled at both the OS level and in-app
  • Account flags are rarely explained — appealing through support is usually the only path

Currently using Datedesire as my main go-to and it's been reliable. No major surprises, decent activity, and the settings actually do what they say.

Hope that gives you something concrete to work with.

Liam Liam
Joined:
Jan 2014
Posts: 2018

Honestly had the same issue. Took me a while to figure out a workaround.

Priya Priya
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Sep 2021
Posts: 2880

Profile and settings quality matters more than most people realize.

Eric Eric
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Jun 2021
Posts: 2173

Spent real time figuring this out. Here's everything I actually learned.

The support documentation on most dating apps is genuinely poor. Community threads like this one are usually more current and accurate.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Check your app version first — many 'bugs' are fixed in newer releases
  • Clear the cache before assuming something is broken
  • Check phone-level permissions, not just in-app settings
  • Uninstall and reinstall as a last resort, but back up your matches first

Happy to expand on any part of this.

Ethan Parker Ethan Parker
Joined:
Sep 2017
Posts: 824

This one trips people up constantly. Here's my complete breakdown.

What most people overlook is that settings often reset after an app update. Always double-check your preferences after any major version change.

Things that have genuinely helped me work through issues like this:

  • Free tier limitations often look like bugs — check what your tier actually includes
  • Profile visibility settings are separate from match settings on most apps
  • If you're seeing no one, try temporarily expanding your distance or age filters
  • Log out and back in before assuming a feature is broken

Take what's useful and leave the rest.

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